But one thing really bothered me ... neither of them had a wedding or even an engagement ring.
I knew that I needed to engage them in conversation.
I found out that he used to be in the Navy and she still is. He is now an electrician working for a general contractor and hoping to get his own license someday. He is dealing with things that are affecting so many people -- higher gas prices, higher wire costs, and decreases in construction. But he was optimistic and in a great frame of mind.
Their daughter's name is Jazlon. The mom made it up. I am not sure what her name is. The dad's name is Rocky. Rocky's mom has already been out to San Diego to see the baby but they were really looking forward to getting the baby to St. Louis to show her off. Rocky's family is pretty small so babies don't come along every day.
Great people. I enjoyed visiting with them but the lack of wedding rings really bothered me.
I told Rocky that I thought they were going to make great parents. He leaned over and kissed Jazlon's mom. I led into what I'd been doing in Tijuana recently and "just happened" to mention that many of the problems we saw there seemed to stem from a breakdown in the family. Rocky was very quiet when I said that. I told him some of the stories we'd heard there. He said that he had only been to TJ once but that he'd been to Mexico a couple of other times since Jazlon's mom has family there.
Then God told me more what to do. As clearly as He has ever spoken to me ... He told me to give them a little gift. And that gift was to be a few dollars and tell them that they needed to leave Jazlon with grandma some evening while they were in Missouri and go out for dinner together.
This was not a lot of money but still money that we don't have to spare right now. But I knew it was what I was supposed to do.
I told Rocky that I knew they don't need the money but that it was important for them to have some time alone and that God had told me to give it to them. He accepted it graciously. I told him that, if he ever wanted to pay me back, he could do the same thing for someone else someday.
I was surprised by how graciously he accepted it. He did not try to refuse it and he was quite appreciative. That made things go very well. That was when he told me his name and shook my hand several times, wishing me the best with my travels.
I say this only to share how the Holy Spirit works. I'll never know but my prayer is that the whole purpose of this is that Rocky will propose to Jazlon's mom when they go out to dinner and that they will raise their beautiful daughter up to see a beautiful marriage. Please join me in this prayer.
I screw up so often ... not hearing God or ignoring Him. It's only by His power that I responded this time so I tell this story only to boast in God and how He works, and so you might join me in praying that this couple gets engaged while they are in Missouri and that they go on to model a great marriage for Jazlon to see.